Want to know the secret to living a kick-ass life?
It’s really simple and easy to do, but the majority of people resist it. They create big complicated reasons why they can’t do it. Some of my favorites are: it’s sinful, hedonistic, selfish.
The secret is-
Do more of what you love, less of what you don’t.
See how simple it is?
So, why is it so difficult?
Because we’re conditioned to live according to other people’s rules and expectations. We are brainwashed into thinking that there is a right way and a wrong way to live our lives and be successful.
In a life so full of have to’s, should’s and supposed to’s, there’s no room to ask yourself what do I want? What do I enjoy? What do I love? You forget how to even ask yourself those questions.
The thing that drives me craziest is how hard we try to live up to these expectations and force ourselves to follow the rules and do things the right way, and it doesn’t work for us, but we keep trying, even though it feels crappy.
I hate seeing you feel like something’s wrong with you when you struggle to make it work, or thinking that you’re selfish if you want something different.
What I find really interesting is how spending time doing things you don’t enjoy is normal and acceptable. Why is it OK to be miserable? To bitch, moan and complain about your life? To feel frustrated and uninspired? Why would you stand it?
I want to see you excited, turned on and inspired by your life. I want you to give yourself permission to do what ever the fuck you feel like doing!
Life is meant to feel good, not suck. You came here to be inspired, interested and excited by the world around you.
Does that mean you never work hard or do things that are difficult?
Nope. Applying yourself is great when you are doing it in service to something you want to master.
Sometimes, you have to be willing to go through the discomfort to get what you want. Take tattoos. I’ve sat through 15 hours of discomfort, some of it extreme, to have what I want, but it was in service to a bigger vision that I have for myself. I’m willing to sit through that discomfort over and over again to achieve my vision of a mermaid themed sleeve.
How much time do spend doing things you don’t like doing? Why do you do them? Are they shoulds or have to’s?
What would you rather do instead?
If it feels difficult, share what’s stopping you in the comments below.