Tell everyone you know: “My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.” And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they’re doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel — and then, you’ll love them all. Because the only reason you don’t love them, is because you’re using them as your excuse to not feel good.
I love this !
I have been practicing this a lot lately.
I find that it can be challenging in my relationship.
I keep noticing that some of the language I use puts my partner as the cause of my happiness.
Statements such as: You made my day, you are making me very happy, It makes me happy when you________.
I have started shifting it a bit when I catch myself.
I will say: You are greatly adding to my happiness.
I am also noticing that it puts the responsibility to be happy back on me.
Boy does it make things easier for both of us!