Distractions come in many forms; the internet, email, paying bills, family, getting caught up in peoples stuff, and even money issues. I get distracted by the birds out the window.
I find that the best way to avoid this is to spend some time everyday connecting to your vision for your kick-ass dream life. This can be the simple practice of imagining what it will be like to live it, and basking in the how good it feels. You could look at your vision board, or write out what a typical day in your dream life will be like. Doing this keeps you focused on what you want to create.
The more connected to your dream you are, the easier it is to stay on track. Your connection acts like a beacon that draws you towards it. Connecting to your dream everyday helps you avoid distractions, keeps your eye on the prize, and keeps you tapped into the outcome you are wanting.
2. Lack of Faith & not Trusting Yourself
(Ok…this could be considered to be two separate things, but I am going to lump them together anyway)
This shows up as self doubt, stressing that it won’t happen and not trusting yourself.
You need to believe that you can have your dream in order to create it. When you start doubting yourself, your ability to create your dream goes out the window. Your faith will make it easier to navigate the sticky place where things seem to be at a standstill, and you are feeling like it is never going to happen.
I feel like faith is intermingled with trusting yourself to be able to create your dream. Trust that you know what is right and your own advice is better than anyone else’s.
Stand firm in your belief that you can create it and have it, and that you deserve it!
3. Not having the proper support structures in place
This shows up in so many ways: overwhelm, old stagnant habits, un-supportive people, not enough energy, not enough time, not enough money.
It is really important to set yourself up for success when you are creating your dream life. You need to make sure you have evaluated what your life will be like when you are living your dream, and compare it to what you life is like now, and determine what kind of shifts and changes that you will need to make in order to fully embrace this new way of living.
Make creating your dream life one of your top priorities. So many people put their own happiness way down at the bottom of their to-do list. It is time to move it to the top of the list!! Now is the time to get rid of what does not serve you, and is not in alignment with your dream life.
Perhaps you need to watch less TV, not drink a six pack of beer every night, or organize your time better. Don’t get caught up in other people’s drama! Surround yourself with supportive people and carve out some time to take care of yourself. Get enough sleep and eat well. Create space for your dream life to slip into.
4. Impatience and focusing on what is not there yet
This leads to self-doubt; stress, frustration and a whole slew of other feelings that make you feel like crap and wonder if your kick-ass dream will ever show up. It is also the fastest way to slow the process way down and possibly bringing it to a screeching halt.
Creating your dream life is a process that unfolds over time.
If you get caught up focusing your attention on what is not there yet, you miss everything that is there.
The more you focus on what is not there yet, the more you amplify the energy of lack in your life.
It is vitally important to focus on what is showing up, and noticing what is already there. Appreciate all that has already unfolded before you and the places in your life that are feeling kick-ass already
5. You resist the lessons along the way
I am going to be honest with you here: During the process of shifting into your kick-ass dream life, there are going to be places that are really uncomfortable.
You will find yourself pushing up against problems, and obstacles and things that you really do not want to deal with, or look at. You will be scared and confused too.
This is part of the process and it is necessary that you regard each of these things as the valuable lesson that it is. Your fear is there to tell you something. Each obstacle and problem is giving you an opportunity to examine your beliefs & stories about things.
Take these lessons as an opportunity to go within and identify where your stuff is. Take ownership of it, question it, and let go of all the stuff that no longer serves you.
Allow your expansion to happen!
Let’s Talk about Money for a minute……
Often times I hear people say that money is the thing that is preventing them from pursuing their dream.
BUT, the fact is that money is a very convenient and socially acceptable excuse to hide behind.
Before you start freaking out, telling me how you NEED MONEY!!!!! I want you to stay with me on this one for a minute.
When I dig deeper into this with clients, and I start asking questions, it usually ends up looking something like this:
I don’t really believe that I can have it .
I am afraid I will fail and I will not be able to support myself.
I do not trust myself to pull it off or do the work.
I do not trust myself to know what I want.
My happiness is not important enough.
My happiness is not my priority.
I am scared and afraid to go for it.
The reality is, that if you were 100% committed to creating your dream, and had faith that you could do it, you would. Money would not matter. You would find a way to make it work.
So, if money is what is holding you back, I ask you to examine that a bit closer and see what is sitting just underneath it.