What Total Freedom Taught Me

Woman-smiling-2-1080x450For the past 6 months I’ve been doing an experiment. I wanted to see what would happen when I was 100% free to do whatever I wanted.

I woke up every day and asked: “What do I want to do today?”

I was curious to see how I’d fill my time and what I’d learn about myself. At first I was sleeping late, going for walks and hanging out. I’d go to the pottery studio and meet friends. I read a lot of books and worked out with a personal trainer.

I let go of a lot of the things I felt like I was supposed to do in my business. I did some coaching work, but not much, only working with a select group of people who were on the same freedom train. Interesting enough, we all seemed to be coming up against the same problem.

Can you guess what the problem was?

We had too much free time and didn’t know what to do with it.

I know…1st world problem, and I’m sure some of you are laughing and thinking “poor baby! I’ve got a list five miles long of things I want to do.”

More specifically, it was challenging to find purposeful, meaningful ways to spend our time. There was all this space to fill, and it made people uncomfortable.

When you have all the space in the world, you need to be tapped into your desire and inspiration or things get boring real fast. You need to be able to hear the answer when you ask: “What do I want to do?”

It was really hard to unwind 40+ years of being a striving, pushing, and super busy women on a mission, and allow myself the time to simply BE in that space of asking and listening to what my soul was yearning for.

It’s super uncomfortable to have nothing to do. People were becoming frustrated and bored, and making lists of things they could do, but nothing was really grabbing or inspiring them.

There was a lot of self-judgement around choices being made; like hanging out and watching TV, or playing on Facebook. Somehow these things weren’t productive or worthy enough.

There was a tendency to fill time with being busy, running errands, and making lists all in an effort to avoid the empty space. It’s amazing how our default is to be busy.

The reality was, that empty space was what we were there for. It was an invitation to step inside and just BE. To notice how we feel. To listen to what our souls desire. To be inspired.

In order to do this, you have to turn down the self-judgment and the part of you that’s always trying to get things RIGHT, and be willing to sit in the discomfort of the unknown.
GTY_relaxing_sr_140516_16x9_992I sat in that space, discomfort and all, and tuned into my desire and my YES. My desire asked for more deep engaged conversations, more feeling turned on and ALIVE, more peace in my head and expansion.

I got really clear that I want to spend my time helping other kick-ass ladies have what they want.

I want to support you in your creation process: clarity, focus, alignment, getting into some serous action, and most importantly, allowing yourself to have what you want in a way that feels freaking fabulous to you.


(If you’d like this kind of support, let’s talk!)


I’m curious to hear about your experience with the empty space and the discomfort of the unknown. Do you relish it or fill it up?


When was the last time you invited in your inspiration and desire? How did you do it?



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