There’s been something on my mind that I’m dying to talk to you about…
The other day I was reading a message from my fabulous friend Eyenie over at Technicolor Priestess, and she was sharing how shocked she was to discover how difficult it was for the women at her workshop to list 10 things they liked about their appearance. Many people couldn’t even come up with 5 (or even 2) things they loved about themselves.
To be honest, I wasn’t surprised by this one bit! We are so hard on ourselves! (I know I’m my biggest critic!)
I see a similar problem when I ask clients to list three things they love and appreciate about themselves.
It’s easy to talk about what you love about someone else or appreciate about your life but when it’s time to shine that loving light on yourself, you go blank.
Why is so hard to love yourself up? Why can’t we see everything that is so freaking amazing about ourselves?
And what the Hell do we do about it???
The reason is- we aren’t taught to love ourselves, or to focus on what works and what feels good.
We spend way too much time feeling like there is something wrong with us and we need to show up in a certain way to be loved. (People pleasing anyone?)
No wonder we can’t see our own awesomeness!!
We’re taught to focus on what isn’t working and needs to be fixed way more than where our sweet spots are. Our energy goes towards trying to keep ourselves safe and managing imperfections, rather than shining bright.
Plus, it’s way more socially acceptable to be down on yourself than to be proud and bragging about how you’re rocking shit out!
I say fuck being “socially acceptable”.
There’s great power in looking for things to appreciate about yourself, noticing what is working and feels good. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.
I want to hear you talk about how awesome you are. I want you to recognize and appreciate your greatness and the things that are uniquely wonderful about you. I want you to know what works and doesn’t work for you and to set your life you to fit you perfectly.
Woo-hoo! Are you with me on this?
What is the Daily Yum???
It’s a daily practice I created to help my clients shift focus towards what they love and appreciate, what’s working and what they want more of. It works fast, you’ll notice a difference in how you feel after the first week. (Well documented side effects of doing the Daily Yum is increased happiness and more freak flag flying.)
Here’s the short form version-
Every day ask yourself these three questions-
1. What do I appreciate/love about me?
2. What’s working for me?
3. What do I want more of?
This may feel awkward at first…a big blank….but start small and you’ll get the hang of it. Appreciate what a wonderful cook you are, or that you are a champion oreo eater!! Once you get used to praising yourself it will be easier to dig a bit deeper and appreciate your tenacity, your loving nature, or you ability to make sense of complex equations.
Join me over on my Facebook group every day in MAY to share your 30 Days of YUM!!
I can’t wait to see your awesomeness.